We usually hear this when someone open up a discussion ‘bout the past incident or things already happened in one’s life. Is it healthy for a relationship to bring back the past? What good does it brings?
The Bad
Bringing up old mistakes - Actually for me this is one of the worst things we shouldn’t ever do in a relationship. Mistakes are mistakes, we can never erase it, it’s already done but we learn from it. Let the mistakes go. No use crying over spilt milk. Live and let go.
Reminiscing past relationship – It’s not that bad actually but as I’ve said live and let go. You’re no longer in the past, you wake up each day with your present partner. How would you feel if your partner talks and reminiscing his/her past relationship? Hello!!!
Comparison of 2 – This is so bad, don’t ever compare your past partner with your present partner. It’s very fatal. Remember that each of them has a different characteristics, different values in life and different way in handling things.
The Good
Reminiscing good moments together – remembering good times together is very healthy for a relationship, especially those happy and funny things you did before.
Keeping souvenirs and memorable things – keeping it means cherishing it. Remembering places you visited together and even the movies you’ve watched together helps both of you build a strong relationship.
Keeping, remembering and reminiscing funny and happy things makes the bond between you and your partner alive. Cherishing these things means you’re cherishing your partner.
We all know that some past is so hard to accept, especially when it brings sadness and pain but also remember that if these things didn’t happen in our life we will not grow, we will not earn experience and we will never learn. It’s what makes us whole.
4 comments:
i agree to that, it depends on what past you want to talk to, bring and talking bout good memories with your partner really help in building strong relationship.u rock
jigs here's my comment na " ang ganda" finished na hahaha...
oh im serious na,,,actually sapol nga ako sa blog mo about past is past as in bulls eye,maybe because i have a very bad experience about loving too much and sacrificing a lot and spending 9yrs of my life waiting for the wrong guy but in the end i found myself being alone and all that you've said in that blog(good and bad) lahat nagawa ko na but now im moving on and i hope its for good and i always believe that everything happens there's always a reason,and time will come that we can have the true happiness w/c everyone really deserves .thanks for sharing your blog
anna-ptc ent
I'm in agreement with you..not entirely though. There're times when we need to bring up the "bad" past to avoid any kind of misunderstanding in the future..however it all still depends on what kind of relationships we are in & what kind of partner we have.
Well, I can relate to this topic & I like it :) Keep it coming!
tnx zatil, i guess it's part of growing up and part of being mature, past is past no use crying over spilt milk :)
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